I strongly believe a woman has the right to choose. In some religions the right to choose is a sin and not even an option. In this day and age there are ways to sneak around that without informing your parents. I come from one of those religions. I am a Muslim American and having premarital sex is a sin, and needless to say, having an abortion is as well. There are many other religions that also have these same beliefs. Where do the people of these religions that find themselves in trouble go?
Many people who come from a more religious background go through more extreme measures to access proper healthcare and reproductive rights. They travel farther to see a gynecologist, if they see one at all and if they find themselves pregnant and needing an abortion they are not going anywhere locally. Proper care may be put off while doing research on where to go. There is a constant worry about someone finding out, telling her parents, or of getting caught.
I know many Muslim women who do not see a gynecologist regularly but are very sexually active. They are putting themselves at great risk for unintended pregnancies if they are not using birth control (oral contraceptives, condoms, etc.) They are especially putting themselves at an increased risk for sexually transmitted diseases. Since sex isn’t something that should be done prior to marriage, measures of protection aren’t discussed in the home.
Out of wedlock pregnancies are a big problem. Given the strictness of the culture and the religion, this can lead to women trying to take measures into their own hands to keep their parents from finding out. I remember skipping school to drive a friend an hour away to have an abortion so her family wouldn’t find out. Women who have to go to that extent may not follow up, as they need to. They just want to get the minimum done to get themselves out of their predicaments. I’ve heard stories of women trying to give themselves an abortion by using a hanger. The health risks of that kind of action are apparent.
The society we live in is constantly changing. What does that mean for religions that originated and are still based from a different time? Islam originated in the 7th century and the religion hasn’t changed since. Try to imagine what it would be like to live by the rules of the 7th century. Are we cheating today’s youth by enforcing a religion on them from a time generations of their family did not grow up in? Are we imposing expectations that aren’t realistic with the society and culture we are living in?
Three religions that are pretty comparable are Islam, Judaism and Christianity. All of these religions consider premarital sex a sin. I have a handful of Muslim friends, one of whom I know to be a virgin, is not married. One person still a virgin in a religion where premarital sex is a sin, all others have engaged in premarital sex. I also know many people of other religions who have engaged in premarital sex and it is accepted. They have adapted the behaviors and culture of today’s society. In the religion of Islam, which has not adapted to any changes since the 7th century, the issues of what to do and how to do it surely become an issue. Especially in a society of love, lust, experimenting and peer pressure there are many girls finding themselves in “trouble” because they have steered away from God and their religion.